Take a wedding, for example. It’s a great place to meet new people – for business purposes, of course.

Social events are a great place to network.

Today’s young professionals rely on networking. In fact, 85 percent of job-seekers’ success comes from networking, according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. With formal weddings and social affairs, known as black- or white-tie, coming back into style, it is important to be conscious of what the opportunity entails.

If you’re traveling to such an affair, you’d better be ready so as to not embarrass yourself.

Like many other girls born in the era of Disney-style fairy tales, I have longed for my chance to be the belle of the ball. So, when asked to be a date to a black-tie reception, I realized that not only did I have a chance to dress up, but also to meet some influential people.

Receptions among my friends and family consist of renting out halls and having grannies do the catering, buffet-style. And don’t even get me started on the Busch keg or brides swigging wine.

In my case, I used Google and common sense to make the best of it.

I contacted several St. Louis wedding professionals. Options in the 21st century have expanded for both men and women. Christy Ricker, owner of All Dressed in White, said the key is to feel comfortable, and to keep it simple.

“Women need to keep their evening wear simple and flowing,” she said. “The ’80s are over, and so are ’80s prom dresses.  The look is all about class and sophistication. There is nothing wrong with color, but animals need to be left in the trees and not on dresses.”

Pedicures and manicures, coordinated accessories, and classic make-up are black-tie staples for women. Dresses shorter than calf-length are usually discouraged, as are loud prints or out-of-season materials. This is a situation where conservative choices will serve in your best interest. That does not mean that you must squash your inner spirit or sense of style.

“Anything that can make you stand out in a crowd is a good thing as long as you are stepping out in a good fashion way,” Ricker said. “Bottom line, simple and colorful with awesome accessories.”

Typically, men are safe with a standard tuxedo. Cummerbunds are not very hot right now, Ricker said, but there are other ways of standing out.

“If done properly, men can use other colors to make a very dramatic statement,” she said. “I love a man that is not afraid to show a hint of Tiffany blue or a softer color with a brown suit.”

The most important aspect of any event, black-tie or otherwise, is behavior. You are there to celebrate something, most likely not yourself. Mingle and make connections, but be respectful of the event. Mike Orlando of Orlando Gardens in St. Louis told me the No. 1 rule.

“Don’t overdo it! No one wants to see an overly intoxicated person looking their best make a fool out of themselves because the open bar allows them to do so.”

Although I was impressed with the caviar and sea of cutlery, I kept these guidelines in mind, and enjoyed my black-tie experience. In the end, I was really glad I’d taken a detour out of my comfort zone. I met some interesting people and make some good connections.

My best advice?

A friendly smile is always the best tool for learning exactly how you’re supposed to eat the artful thing on your plate.